Déjà Vu Blogfest 2014

Posted on December 19, 2014
The Déjà Vu Blogfest 2014 is hosted by DL Hammons, and its purpose is to re-share one of your favorite posts from 2014, or a post that you feel went without notice.

Now... I don't have a long list of followers so many of my posts go unnoticed <<cue collective awe>>, but I do have a few favorite posts that I would like to re-share. I've narrowed it down to three posts, one real-life blog entry and two short stories. After reviewing the three post, the two short stories really couldn't compare to the real-life entry. My absolute favorite post of 2014, ironically, and you'll know why it's ironic once you read it, is: IWSG : Writing During a Tragedy  (May 6th, 2014)

My mother-in-law passed away in late March, unexpectedly, and it hit my husband pretty hard. The post is about how I used writing to cope with the loss, and how it helped my husband, in a way, move on. I believe it's the most heartfelt post I ever put up on my blog, or anywhere really. There are several entries about my kids, my family, and other things going on in my life, even about my dwindling "writing career", but this one was different. I have never exposed my weaker self before, and those who personally know me know that I almost NEVER let my weaknesses show. That's probably why it's my favorite post, though it shouldn't be. It's a paradox.

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  1. That's a beautiful post Tanya, your response from your husband shows how it is definitely okay to write during tragedy if you are ready xx

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    1. "If you are ready...", so true. Everyone has a mourning period, and people mourn in different ways. It felt odd at first, but when I wrote that post...I was ready. Thanks for stopping by Suzanne!

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  2. I left this same comment over on the original post...but I'll gladly re-state it here.

    Your post really touched me...and after you read my Deja Vu post you'll know why. YES...it's okay to write in the midst of such tragedy. In fact, sometimes it is a moral imperative.

    Thank you for choosing this piece to showcase during Deja Vu. I REALLY enjoyed it! :)

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    1. Thanks DL. Your post was very touching. This was a great blogfest!

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  3. Beautiful and touching post! Thank you for reviving it for the blogfest. I think it's clear that writing during a tragedy helps. It can also produce some of the best work because it can be so honest and open..

    Happy Deja Vu!

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    1. Thanks Chris! It's difficult to show a vulnerable side, but it did feel good when I did so. I love that poem, Dulce Is Home, showing my mother-in-laws wishes turned hopeful. People may not get it, but I get it, and so does my husband. We both needed it.

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  4. It's the times we're down that we often can write some touching prose. You did the right thing and now when you reflect, you're feelings are there for you to explore.

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    1. It's like in the old days, when you look at your written journals from a long time ago and reflect on the way you felt back then. Blogging, of course, is a little bit more exposing, but the expression of feeling, the release of emotions is the same. So true about reflection. Isn't that why we all do it, C.?

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  5. Thank you for sharing your post. I think it's fine to write during a tragedy. Writing can offer a safe place for you to express your emotions.

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    1. A safe place indeed! Thanks for stopping by on the blog hop, Cynthia!

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  6. this was wonderful, so glad you shared it. I think writing during tragedy is completely different for everyone. In some cases all I've wanted to do was write and in others I shut down for a month or so. There's definitely no one normal. thank you for re-posting this!

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    1. Shutting down, I think, is the norm. That guilty feeling is so hard to shake.

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  7. I recently lost my dad, and while I'm not ready to write about it yet, your post touched me. Thank you for sharing.

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    1. Sorry for your loss Linda. I'm glad you can find some comfort in my little pieces of work. Your post of using your Mum's tinsel was a great tribute to her. We all remember our loved ones in different ways - the point is remembering. :-1

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  8. Hi Tanya - a very interesting post that brought a new perspective to loss .. I've always been positive about my mother's end and her life, but never really related it to the early days when she was truly happy .. thanks for doing that .. cheers Hilary

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    1. I only knew my mother-in-law for a year before she had her stroke. Since then she was in a wheelchair and incontinent. But my husband was sure to tell stories of her when she was younger, to my daughter, so that she could know her grandmother as a once-healthy woman full of life. His stories left an impression on all of us.

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  9. Brought tears to my eyes, Tanya; thanks for sharing.

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